MY FIRST DATE AT 17!

"When a man has once loved a woman, he will do anything for her, except continue to love her." - Oscar Wilde

Olaitan! What a name never to forget, never to run out of sight, and always to pick as the starting point of love and interest for maybe 'women'. Never doubt it, love is a beautiful thing. Love is a smile caused by just seeing, feeling, touching, and knowing the individuals involved. Love and you shall be loved. 

All love is mathematically just, as much as the two sides of an algebraic equation, "They do not love that do not show their love. The course of true love never did run smooth. Love is a familiar. Love is a devil. There is no evil angel but Love" Says William Shakespeare.

My first experience of affection in its real form can be simply put as Love. The first love is far different from the adult stage one which leads to marriage. As lads we all feel so cool when we find a girl who creates a mutual interest. While in secondary school, I do have a friend named Kolade who was loved by buying Feotamy ice cream for ladies, and also a 'short devil mathematician' named Sunday who is loved by buying egg rolls, chin, and groundnut in preps. For me, I found no lasting experience in all this. They also are channels of affection, but not as strong as mine.

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One of my experiences of affection is believing when you as a boy, pee on the spot a lady did hers, it brings out a common interest. What a superstition! One other thing we do as young ones is write secret love letters to beautiful damsels in school,  during or after closing hours, but if you are caught in the process - sorry is the next worst case scenario, as you will be called out at the morning assembly to be spanked and make open your secret act. No dulling, life goes on, and those moments of no shame are the starting of masculinity.

What an experience!

THE UNUSUAL OFFER

It was September 10th, 2012 a day I till today tagged the 'Mother of days', why? it was the day I met my first date, probably say, my first love. As a kid not yet attained the maturity stage of 18, I was prone to love, and sex, just as every other persons, it is a good part of man that cannot be denied. This was my basis for hating people who castrate their animals, depriving them of what matters on the long term.

I had such a blessed, jovial, and good-at-dancing brother Micheal, he do carry me along for exclusively Christian praise nights, on getting to those events, jokes of all sort will be on before the program which always starts at 11pm and runs through the night till mama calls. I started showing my skills and from thence got loved by known and the unknown. Basically, I do my dancing steps without thinking anyone is watching being a lad, but fortunately, I was making a load of friends in the shadows.

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At this certain event, after doing the dancing, I was tired, and needing to go get some cool air, I stepped out and the information reaching me by my good old friend Temitope Raymond was that - "Isaiah there is this girl that most of us have been talking to but she is not yielding, ehen ehen, I gestured,- I dey tell you! You fit try self, my friend encouraged. 

Trying has never been my problem, I was taught by my Dad to always take s trial at thing, to always face my fears. Although, not in regards to this kind of scene, but as a general principle. So for me, to get results you have to go to the extreme.

I approached the lady in question, and it was just as if everyone meeting her was preparing the way for me like John prepared the way for Jesus.

FIRST OF ALL, INTRODUCTION

I am Isaiah Oluwasemilore Aladesanwa, before I could say the next statement, I heard; "I saw you dancing in the Church, you seem good at it." Wow! I just hit a jackpot. I went ahead with other introductions; my school, where I reside, and others, and she did in return, she happen to come from a popular family and et all, 'some things are better left unsaid'.

That very night, as at 3am walking back home, you will imagine what an odd time, right? Nay, it was just a very good time to do such then, she walked me down the street, a night that became my first night to do a "lovely kiss".

Oh my Gosh! I was just so happy I had a kiss from a beautiful damsel. As we walk home, I felt a horse riding in me, with no obstacles. It's was a night of wonders.

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While walking down we met some policemen on the way, as usual, I am not afraid of such caliber of Force men, neither was I afraid to respond to any question being asked me. I am the voice of the voiceless right from time, only God knows why I didn't study Law as a profession... We were told to carry on, after some conversations.

ROMANCE AND SEX

"I am young and foolish then; now I am old and foolisher."  - Mark Twain 

On Sunday, I attended her Church, dressed neatly, tucked in my shirt, with a polished shoe, I rolled out my muffler and make use of my fashion ring and my wrist blue band.

On getting there the service has started, I came in like a guest speaker so to say, I indeed command respect, don't get it twisted, all said and done the service ended, and been a youth program they shared the then Coaster Biscuit for participants.

I was hungry but I couldn't eat the biscuits,  instead I had to play the big boy, smiles, this is common among men. On our way, leading to her house, I can't forget she had a two young mature thinking friends, I believe this is because they went to an 'all girls only' secondary school, her friends left us two to do the lone walking, we got to a point where there stood a cashew tree, I don't know why I take solace under trees, most especially cashew trees. We talked, shared our joy, and other lovers talk and we say a goodbye.

MONDAY OF MOMENTS

I received a call from her, I am coming to your house, please describe exactly your location. Wow! 

The next thing was running up and down to fix my room and to also freshen up, I was young and free which is just the best. In say 25minutes, I had the sound vum vum vum, here she comes, the bike man dropped her, I paid and patted the guy, thanks for doing just this...I held my baby's hand, and we went in.

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At this point, I can't express by way of writing what is running all over me, I had a slight sweat, I had this hot shaking in my stomach, and believe me, as we entered, I had the first conscious rise - rise in what? (Please, complete the rest).  She choose not to sit on the chair in my room, my mum was on leave, resting in her room while the whole time lasted. I was just good at entertaining guest, I learnt this from my Mum, being the third born, she will always call me to do the girls duties. The stressful time paid off as I did the best in my power to entertain my guest.

On the bed,  we both lay our back, talked a little, kiss a much, she stood up, took off her top dress, leaving her to the navel showing singlet and color blue brassier, she dance to the song by Beyonce and other artistes, most especially the song by Jennifer Lopez featuring Lil Wayne: 'Am into you'. She twerked, rolled her eyes, and other bed mode female dance. Oh my God! I took her hand, brought her low, turned her around doing the kissing and the touching for minutes, I was charged in all states being my first time... something came out from me for the first time, never had such experience.

 A little, whitish but slippery stuff. At this point, just like Mettallica, Nothing else matter. I rode the lighting, and I heard the word's, "let's do this on the day of our wedding! With a smile, I said, Okay. Little did I know such day may never come, and as I write this will never come. Some things are better left unsaid.

It was a unique moments, a day I can't forget. My first date at 17!

This is my story, share with me yours, and let's pass it on.

Writer's note: this is a lived experience, not written to paint anyone, any gender or entity white or black.